Seeen called out El Mijo earlier on Honer Sports for his hatred of Pam and now we are going to set the record straight. First off, I love the show completely, I don't hate Jenna Fisher (the actress) and I don't hate Pam because her character isn't funny or entertaining in the show (she is). I hate Pam because her character is constantly sullen, bratty, catty, judgmental, passive aggressive and hypocritical to everyone at Dunder-Mifflin (this includes her precious Jim too). We can dive deeper too because I know The Flap has been giving me shit on this opinion for years. Settle in because this is a doozey, nobody can see me with my Seinfeld/The Office knowledge/opinion. If you don't want to take the time to read this, take this much from me, if a girl wants to be the Pam to your Jim, run for the hills. Do not judge me or share your opinion of Pam with me until you have read the entirety of this blog post.
Season 1: Pam has been "engaged" to Roy for years but has no wedding plans in site. She flirts with Jim all the time, even though her fiance works literally one-story below. Whenever Roy comes up stairs, she shrivels back into her awkward shell to say/do nothing, completely alienating Jim, while misleading her future husband. During the basketball game, she watches Roy cheap-shot Jim (and says nothing) then reminds Jim in the office later that she's gonna have sex with Roy once they get home. She uses Jim to get thru her mundane work-day, then throws him under the buss whenever Roy comes into the situation.
Season 2: Pam starts the season off with a bang by getting into a fight with Roy when the "Dundies" begin. After Roy leaves, Pam gets drunk and kisses Jim after accepting her award for whitest sneakers. She continues to flirt with Jim all season, sending mixed signals constantly. Jim clearly struggles with his affection for Pam, getting ridiculed by other co-workers and having his feelings get put on blast a few times by Michael. After Jim battles his shame and embarrassment on several occasions, the season ends when Jim finally gets the courage to kiss Pam, but Pam rejects Jim and says she is going to marry Roy (lying that she was drunk and has no feelings for Jim). Jim leaves heartbroken for Stamford.
Season 3: Pam decides to end her relationship/wedding plans with Roy (the reason why Stanley has two toasters). She clearly misses Jim on an every day basis, finding that Jim was the only reason why she smiled on an everyday basis. When Jim moves back to Scranton after Stamford is absorbed, Pam is surprised to find out that Karen Filippelli is now Jim's squeeze. Pam continues to flirt with Jim despite his relationship with Karen and realizes that she never should have let him go. Pam then lets her jealously take over and starts to date Roy again for about 2 days. That blows up when she mistakenly and incorrectly describes to Roy what happened with her and Jim the night they kissed. Roy attacks Jim the next day (Dwight saves Jim by pepper-spraying half the office) and is fired immediately for the discrepancy. Jim realizes he still has feelings for Pam but wants to continue to date Karen because, you know, Pam rejected him. Pam sort-of befriends Karen for one episode but Karen quickly sniffs out that Pam wants Jim. At the end of Season 3, Pam admits her feelings for Jim in front of all the employees at D.M. Jim then has the opportunity to grab Jan Levinson's job at NY corporate due to his friendship with David Wallace, but decides that he loves Pam and returns to Scranton.
Season 4: Pam is ecstatic when Jim returns to Scranton to be with her. They begin secretly dating but eventually reveal their love to the office. If you look at this season as a whole, Pam actually isn't that much of a bitch. She genuinely falls for Jim and finally lets herself feel free around the office. She does however, begin to judge/help Angela for her relationship with Dwight, thus thrusting herself back into the drama scene. Jim has an extremely stressful work-year with Ryan Howard breathing down his back for productivity. Pam is the reason Jim doesn't focus so he is fighting a two-way battle to keep Pam happy and not lose his job. At the end of season 4, Pam is irked that Jim didn't propose even though Jim finally gave her the confidence, support and flexibility for her to pursue art school. She also reveals that she has always thought Toby was cute, which is enough of a reason on its own to hate her.
Season 5: Pam and Jim begin the difficult task of having a long-distance relationship with Pam being in NY for art school. She quickly goes broke and realizes that NY is expensive (no shit) so Michael Scott hooks her up with a job because Michael Scott is the second best thing behind Jim that has ever happened to Pam (more on that later). Jim struggles being away from Pam, but proposes to her because he is in love and can't wait anymore. Pam fails an art class that forces her to decide between staying in NY to retake the class, or returning to her fiance in Scranton. She drops out of college and returns to a very happy Jim, and now this is where Pam really gets worse. Michael gives her job back immediately of course, but Pam still doesn't respect him as a boss or person. Jim buys his parent's old house and converts the garage into an art studio for Pam. Pam's parent's go through a divorce so she begins to question her future with Jim, but Jim is there to console Pam and help her realize that their relationship isn't the same as her parent's shitty one. Pam starts to feel like her job as a receptionist isn't what she wants so she leaves with Michael on an impulse decision to become a salesman for Michael Scott Paper Company. She very quickly regrets her decision and goes behind Michael's back to get her job at Dunder Mifflin back but gets denied. When MSPC goes broke, Jim silences a suspicious Dwight and helps Michael/Pam create a ruse so that Dunder Mifflin acquires MSPC. Jim knowingly and openly commits insider trading, fraud and perjury to David Wallace/Dunder Mifflin so that Pam and Michael get their jobs back. This is the biggest and possibly most incriminating case where Pam takes a big shit and Jim wipes it up, no questions asked, fully supporting Pam. Even if it meant firing/potential jail time, Jim came through for Pam.
Season 6: Pam announces to the office that she is pregnant at the beginning of season 6. This has a HUGE affect on her because her hormones cause her to act even more psychotic and irrational with situations where Jim has to put out the fire or has a target on his back. During their wedding, Pam has a meltdown moments before the ceremony and breaks down because her parents are driving her nuts and her wedding-vale tore. Jim takes her for a secret private ceremony before the official one so that Pam feels comfortable and happy returning to her wedding (also revealing that he "planned" for this situation just in case because Pam is fuckin Pam). Michael begins to date Pam's mother after the wedding, this causes a huge riff once Pam returns from her honeymoon. Pam initially loses her shit and goes into attack mode when hearing about Michael and her mother. Jim calms her down but Pam is again enraged when Michael dumps her Mom on her birthday. After striking Michael in the face in front of the entire office as an agreed punishment, Pam reveals to Jim that he was right, and she shouldn't have done or reacted how she did. Pam's delivery day comes but she is terrified to go to the hospital even though her contractions are causing high-amounts of pain. She scolds/berates Jim for trying to be aggressive in taking her to the hospital, because you know, she's Pam. Jim begins to break down slowly while worrying about his future child's and wife's health but Pam finally breaks down and admits her fear. Jim talks her down again and tells her that it's all going to be great in typical Halpert-fashion. Pam has Cici Halpert and thankfully/mercifully becomes irrelevant for the rest of the season while on maternity leave.
Season 7: After Dunder Mifflin is acquired by Sabre, Pam quickly realizes that her job as a salesman is unfitting because she hasn't had any success selling while the other salesman have flourished under Sabre. She creates a job out of thin air as the Office Manager, lying to the Sabre corporate representative Gabe that she was already promoted before Dunder Mifflin was acquired. She successfully fools Sabre and starts her job as a self-described corrupt office manager. She has Andy destroy his own computer so he can get a new one, then gives Daryl extra sick days to cover her tracks when he calls her out. When Dwight starts making annoying building changes that wreak havoc on the office, Pam makes up a fake location (instead of doing her job and finding another location thru research) where the office would move to in order to threaten Dwight. Dwight easily discovers her lie, and calls her out. Pam breaks down in front of Jim because she is "failing" again as an office manager just like failing as a salesman and at art-school. Dwight over hears Pam break down and decides to help her both keep her job and stop his annoying building policies. Towards the end of the season, it's only when Michael is leaving that Pam realizes how much she will miss him and finally respects him for the amazing boss he was to her.
Season 8: Pam is immediately put on the "loser" side of Robert California's list (very astute), she breaks down crying again because she's again pregnant and here we fuckin go. First Pam flexes her combative pregnancy muscle on Jim because he doesn't believe in ghosts, and then the moment where I hated Pam more than any other occasion occurs. Pam is training her replacement (Kathy) while she is on maternity leave, and takes offense when the new girl is dubbed "the younger Pam". Pam immediately questions Jim if he thinks Kathy is attractive. Jim truthfully states that he is not attracted to her but Pam thinks he's lying. She enlists the help of Dwight (great choice) to help catch Jim in a lie. After a couple lame/obvious attempts, Jim's ends up agreeing to having his blood pressure taken to see if his heart rate rises while answering a question with a lie. Pam treats Jim like shit the entire time till she realizes Jim has extremely high blood pressure (gee, I wonder why) and starts to be concerned about his health instead. A man who has given her everything, Pam questions and pushes him with a stupid hypothetical that should be immediately dismissed. If you haven't figured this out yet, Jim is the foundation of this relationship and has never been rocked, despite Pam's consistent, childish and impulsive attempts to shake it. Down in Florida, the new girl Kathy even tries to seduce Jim and pestered him in his room so that he would sleep with her. Jim denies Kathy instantly and sicks Dwight on her so it never happens again. What a terrible father/husband Pam has.
Season 9: Pam and Jim attend Roy's wedding (another stupid idea of Pam's) and they begin to question their relationship because Roy is spewing love at his wedding (no shit). Jim gets an incredible offer to pursue a dream opportunity to work for a sports publicity/agency firm that he helped create but hesitates to tell Pam for fear of her reaction. Pam suspects something and first thinks that Jim is having an affair (based on the evidence from Nellie, a British woman on Xanax who actually has zero evidence of an affair) so she starts to feel even worse towards Jim. When Pam learns the real reason, she sinks deeper into resentment instead of fully supporting Jim like he has done for her countless times in the past. Jim starts to split time between Scranton and Philly so he can work both jobs and attempt to keep everyone happy. After Pam forgets to record their daughter's recital, Jim finally losses it on Pam and airs his frustrations, causing a big fight. What happens next was strange but apparently the sound guy for the documentary crew is kind-of in love with Pam and always has been? Pam decides to look more into this (of course) but it just turned out to be irrelevant, Jim and Pam continue to struggle. They resort to talking with coworkers (Nellie/Toby, (awful choices)) and trying to work through their marital troubles. In the final episodes, Jim gets an offer from his company to head the expansion of their firm in Dallas. Jim turns down the lucrative opportunity because he realizes that Pam is happiest when he is working at the Office with her and decides that he is going to focus on his marriage in Scranton. A year later (a whole fuckin year) Pam secretly lists their house so that Jim can take the opportunity down in Texas. She said she wanted to return all of Jim's romantic gestures by selling their home and agreeing to move with this one surprise swoop. Jim is of course ecstatic and everybody is happy in the end.
To summarize it all, in El Mijo's opinion, Jim is the tall tree in the relationship, Pam is the lumberjack. No matter how much she tried to chop down that tree, Jim held strong. Jim Halpert is the role model/hero to all of us boyfriends/husbands and pioneered the countering of "Beeeb Traps". Next time your wife or girlfriend pisses you off, ask yourself, what would Jim Halpert do? The man who crawled through a mile of Pam's shit and came out clean the other side...Andy Dufresne...
By: El Mijo
By: El Mijo